Parents Must Open Loneliness

LONELINESS often occurs in older people. According Setyaningsih SPSI MSI, loneliness is a state of emotional and cognitive unhappy due to close relationships, but can not reach the significance of the relationship. For this reason, people feel lonely, even though they have close relationships with others. "Parents have a lot of it," he said. Therefore, not all parents have the creativity to strengthen relationships with people. Although they know and understand well the need to build quality relationships like that. But, in reality, they are difficult and not successful in achieving the goals that relationship. "Many factors that cause it to happen," said psychology professor Trunojoyo University, Madura, it is. One is the personal experience of experienced individuals. Usually, they are afraid of going all the others for fear of getting rejected. The reason for this variety is actually not necessarily true. For example, fear of rejection because they do not equal or do not believe in others. "Perceptions about the lack of reciprocity in relationships can also be a problem," he said. For example, someone who has given much to others in their relationship. But in reality, they are not getting anything. In addition, the influence of a group or family can be the cause of people feel lonely. For example, they always mocked, says can not afford or are not trusted to do certain things. It is common in the elderly because of the lack of empathy for them. "Negativity personally like the feeling unhappy and dissatisfied with myself could also be a trigger," he continued. Usually, it happens to someone who experienced something unpleasant streak. Like the saying goes, hit the ladder had fallen as well. Unpleasant events that make a person has a negative feedback to yourself. As a result, another party to give a negative response. Well, to avoid loneliness, the perception or mindset must be changed. These views must be eliminated so negative a positive thing that will arise similar response by others. "Help a system to support people that do not also need to be lonely," he said. For example, the help of people around for others to succeed in relating. For example, people who do not want to appear active in gathering activities should be encouraged to get involved. "To encourage people, it can be said that the gathering would not be crowded without his presence," he said. With statements like that, surely the parents who felt useless and lonely spirit will be encouraged to build relationships.