Some Attitudes Less Common Good Not To Child Birth

Unwanted children

 
Mom may not want the presence of the child because the child was illegitimate, because it would interfere with his career, because it will make him bound, or because he was too busy caring for other children. Dad may not want the child because she did not want to be forced to marry his mother, because the financial burden that will result a child, because he did not want to be tied, or because he does not want his wife preoccupied with caring for children so ignore him. Siblings may not want children because they do not like the limitations posed by her sister on the activities or because they do not want to share his or her time and attention with his brother.
 

Does not want children at this time

 
Parents may not want children, because children interfere with their education and employment programs, because they felt was too young and inexperienced raise children, because they can not afford it, or because they do not want to immediately assume responsibility as parents. Grandma / grandpa might feel that the young couple can not pay child support and fear should provide financial aid assistance or other assistance.
 

More like a child with a specific gender

 
Nenenk father and / grandfather usually want a baby boy as the first baby; if there are boys in the family, they want women. Mother-child may want a boy to please her husband, or she wanted a daughter because he felt could be friends. Siblings usually like younger brother of the same sex with him is regarded as a friend to play.
 

The concept of a child's dream

 
All family members have the concept of child-dreams that characterize their attitude to the unborn baby. The parents and grandmother wanted a perfect baby mentally, emotionally and physically-smart, obedient, beautiful, and the siblings want to play the ideal friend, someone who would do what they will and who will not compete with or exceed them.
 

Not wanting twins

 
Now too many adults who consider the birth of many many babies like animals, or accept the traditional belief that children are twins suffered as a child mentally and physically weak. Other people believe that children are twins cause a lot of work for all family members and fear of additional costs for hospital care that can not be avoided if the babies were born prematurely. Less favorable attitudes is increasingly magnified if the following conditions are born with conditions that they had feared before birth.
 

Wanting unemployment or abortion

 
If the baby does not want for whatever reason, some women wish they would have an abortion or they are planning an abortion. If the developing baby's life is terminated, either because of miscarriage or by abortion, women often feel guilty and less fun is thrown in all the children born later. If they oppose abortion or miscarriage that happens, they may feel guilty and guilt expressed this by protecting and spoil the child so they do not expect.
 

Insult to the child

 
Relatives, family friends and neighbors may have less favorable attitudes toward prospective children as illegitimate, because some stains on the life of one or both parents, or because the child is the result perkawianan candidates of different races or different religions. As a result, parents become defensive and treat the child with a very protective way or very indulgent attitude to offset the less pleasant or they may reject him because he felt ashamed.